Psychotherapy?

People generally contact me when they are distressed. Sometimes the distress is intense and sharp, other times more chronic and nagging, perhaps more demoralized than pained. Some clients are brand new to therapy, whereas others have had past experiences that can help clarify what they seek in a therapist. Starting therapy tends to be an anxiety-arousing process; I do what I can to help with this.

In my view, people have a natural desire to heal and develop. They bring some wisdom in how to go about this, but there are serious obstacles that they need help with. In one metaphor, therapy is like a journey, an expedition through not fully charted terrain. You know yourself better than I do, but I have experience with this kind of journey, so we travel together--you do not have to do it alone.

Therapy often involves working to develop greater awareness of what is going on inside, and to understand patterns and find ways to reduce their power and the suffering they cause. Shame is a frequently encountered challenge that requires sensitivity, caution, and sometimes strength to handle effectively. Life happens to a large extent in relationships--both romantic and all other varieties of relationships, so personal growth and development comes in response to challenging and rewarding interactions with others.

Listening well is an important part of my job, sometimes hearing and understanding things that are difficult to express, and even that you may not yet be fully aware of. We work together as a team. There may be occasions when you and I are not on the same page, and that too can be an important learning opportunity.

In time, our efforts can lead to living with greater authenticity, enjoyment, and sense of meaning in life. Your “symptoms” may not disappear, but instead be less overwhelming and more of a familiar companion. Decision-making can improve, feeling clearer and less tortured. Self-esteem and personal identity can be better understood, more stable and manageable. In therapy people can learn to handle relationships of all kinds more skillfully, so they feel more rewarding and satisfying.